Jealousy

Unhealthy Relationship Behaviours

We have all experienced jealousy, and although it gets a bad rap, it is normal to want to guard the people we love, especially when we believe we see a potential threat of someone cosying up to a loved one.

BUT

There is a difference between feeling jealous and showing unhealthy jealous behaviours.

Normal jealousy is a pang that comes on instantly, which we can normally dismiss on our own.

Unhealthy jealousy occurs when we encourage the feelings and act impulsively from a place of insecurity and jealousy. When insecurity in our relationships runs rampant, jealousy can rapidly grow into a frenzy of bad thoughts and obsession and threaten to destroy the very relationship that we feel we are protecting.

Jealousy Dangers

Jealousy doesn’t become a problem until it is acted on. People prone to intense jealousy or possessiveness often harbour feelings of inadequacy or inferiority and tend to compare themselves to others.

Jealousy, at its core, is a by-product of fear, fear of not being good enough, fear of loss.

When it hits, it can trick some into believing their relationship is in immediate danger (making it impossible to distinguish between natural feelings of protectiveness and irrational suspicion).

Unhealthy relationships often start with small things like suspicion, i.e., partner hunting for evidence of cheating.

Happy couples know that they cannot be everything to their partner.  Each person needs a certain level of freedom and independence, so you should never be held responsible for another person’s happiness. So, if jealousy affects you, it is worth addressing the reasons behind it.

The key to maintaining a healthy relationship is to spot the early signs.

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